ANGER:
Hazrat Abu Huraira reported :
A man came to the prophet, peace and blessings be upon him , and said , “advise me”. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said , “ don’t get angry”. He repeated this request twice and the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “don’t get angry”. (Bukhari)
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“The strongest is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the one who controls himself while in anger.” (Bukhari)
Hazrat Ali said :“ Keep away from anger because it starts with rage and ends in remorse.” (Mustadrak al wasail)
Hazrat Imam Jaffer Sadiq said :“Anger is the key to all ills .”
Ibne Qudamah reported :“Satan , may Allah curse him ,said to Hazrat Musa, upon him be peace. O Musa! Beware of the sharpness of anger , for indeed, I play with the man’s fury (uncontrolled anger) just as children play with ball.” (Minhaj ul Qasideen)
Anger effects the heart and nerves of a person and makes him weak. Anger arises because of some pain , worry or discomfort and leads to many problems and sins.
HATRED:
Islam strictly discourages its followers to hate or despise other human beings but it only encourage its believers to hate all evils like disbelief (kufr), polytheism (shirk) and hypocrisy (Nifaq).
Allah says in Quran :“ O you who believe! Let not a group scoff (laugh) at another group, may be the latter are better than the former , nor let some women scoff at another group of women , may be the latter are better than the former , nor defame one another , nor insult one another by nicknames. How bad it is, to insult one another after having faith . And those who are indulge in these wrongful acts and do not ask forgiveness for their sins , they are the unjust people.” (surah al hujrat)
Hazrat Anus Ibne Malik reported:
The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said to me :
“ O boy! If you are able every morning and evening to remove any rancor (anger) from your heart towards anyone , then do so . Then he said , “O boy!” ‘that is my tradition (sunnah) and whoever revives my tradition has loved me and whoever loves me will be with me in paradise.” (Tirmizi)
Science has eastablished the fact that hatred activates the regions of the brain associated with aggression and the motor regions that would translate this aggression into action.
JEALOUSY AND ENVY:
Jealousy is called ‘hasad’ in Arabic. It is the most destructive emotion or feeling which causes a man to wish evils for others. Under this feeling he feels happy when misfortune befalls others. Hasad is a disease of soul that has psychological, moral and social consequences. Jealousy weakens the roots of a person’s faith and turn him towards sins and disbelief. Lots of murders , fights and crime are the result of envy and jealousy.
Hazrat Abu Huraira narrated:
Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said; “Avoid jealousy, for jealousy devours(swallow or eat up) good deeds just as fire devours fuel.” (Abu Dawood)
Hazrat Anus Ibne Malik reported:The Messenger of Allah , peace and blessings be upon him, said;
“Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of a believer and fasting is his shield from the hellfire.” (Ibne Maja)
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“ Beware ; Don’t be enemy of blessings of Allah (SWT). He was asked , O Prophet of Allah (SWT), who are those people who keep enmity with the blessings of Allah (SWT)? The Prophet replied; ‘Those who are envious.’(Al Tabrani)
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said :“Beware; Indeed a disease that afflicted past nations before you , has reached you like an ant and that is ‘envy’ because it does not eat hair but eats away your religion .” (Tirmizi)
Hazrat Ali said: “Jealousy has deleterious (harmful) effects on nerves and heart of a person and makes him sick and weak.”
Hazrat Luqman said to his son:“The envious person has three signs. Backbiting behind them (whom he envies) , flatters them in front and is happy when they are in trouble.”
Hazrat Imam Jaffer Sadiq said :“There is no tranquility for the envious and there is no prosperity for the envious . Shaytan says to his gang ; Instill envy and disobedience among them (human beings) because these two are equal to polytheism (shirk).
Imam Al Baqir said:
“ Verily envy destroys faith like fire destroys wood.”
Abdullah Ibne Masud reported:
The Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said;
“ Most of the sins of offspring of Adam are on their tongues.” (Al Tabrani)
EFFECTS OF JEALOUSY:
•The situation of jealous people is expressed in Quran as follows;
“They lose both this world and the Hereafter.” (22: 11)
•A jealous person can never be happy and peaceful because he wants people to lose what Allah has given to them.
•One who is jealous with others always think negatively which effects his health. Jealousy drives away one’s religion.
•Mostly jealous persons are seem to be ill and restless both physically and mentally.
•Today it has been eastablished that many physical illnesses are due to psychic problems.
•You will find a jealous person busy backbiting of whom he is jealous of and thus he commits one more sin.
•No one respects a jealous person.
•Jealousy disturbs the relations.
•When one become jealous of worldly things , it takes him to the wrong path.
HOW TO GET RID OF JEALOUSY:
The way of getting rid of jealousy is described in the following hadiths.
mThe Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“There are three things ; nobody has ever managed to get over them. Bad luck , negative suspicion and jealousy.” When Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was asked about the way of getting over them , he said; when you think of bad luck do not quit the thing you like, when you are suspicious of something/ someone do not investigate , when you are jealous do not act accordingly.” (Bukhari)
mThe Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“ Do not look to those above you. Look at those below you as it more likely remind you of Allah’s favors bestowed on you.” (Bukhari, Muslim)
mThe Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“ Shake hands for this will dispel rancor (anger) and exchange gifts and love one another , for this will dispel hatred.” (Tirmizi) The Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“ By Allah , in whose hands is my soul, you will never enter Paradise until you believe and you will not believe unless you love one another . May I tell you something that if you do , you may love one another? Spread ‘ salam ‘ amongst yourselves . (Muslim)
mDon’t compare yourself to others.
mBe content. Discontentment comes from the unawareness of the teachings of Quran.
mKeep in mind all favors of Allah are test.
mGet rid of hatred and anger.
mIf thoughts of anger crosses your mind drink a glass of water, sit on floor and say Lahaula wala quwat.
mWhenever get jealous do a lot of Istighfar.
mGive sadqa.
mSupplicate to Allah to purify your heart.
mThere should be strong belief on Allah for each and everything.
mDon’t become part of environment where people are indulge in backbiting.
mWhenever negative thinking comes to your mind, start doing something else and change your environment.
mRecite last two Quls, Ayat ul kursi and surah Fatiha after every farz namaz, each 3 times.
mFocus on blessings given to you by Allah (SWT) and thanks Him.
mSpend some time with good books and read Biographies of inspiring people.
mHelp the needy people.
mJoin the company of religious, positive and committed people.
mTurn towards Quran as Quran is healing for all diseases of heart. “O mankind! There has come to you a good advice from your Rabb and a healing for that in your chest.” (10 : 57)
(To be continued …)